Amy Barnes, MBA MA LMHC
Relationship Counseling and Coaching
Coaching with Amy- All You Need Is Love (Time Sensitive)As you may, or should, know, tomorrow is the kick off to Katie and Gay’s Lasting Love you’ve always desired and deserved! So this is a quick reminder that TONIGHT, Monday, at MIDNIGHT is your LAST CHANCE to join their … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- 30 Day Non Violence ChallengeI don’t think of myself as a violent person. I do good deeds. I’m nice to others. I even helped a women load a case of paper into her car in front of Staples the other day. My Yoga instructor, … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Is Your Fear Real?Years and years ago at the height of my extreme introvert self – yes I am a recovering extreme introvert and I still need plenty of me time – I interviewed for and actually worked as a sales rep for … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Free to BeMaybe you know someone like “Larry” or maybe you are a lot like “Larry.” Larry has never been able to please his Father. He went into the family business and married a woman that pleased his parents. He went to … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Stop Fighting FiresYes, stop fighting fires and do the important stuff instead. The important stuff is often not what seems most urgent. Someone else in your organization may also be much better at putting at fires than you are and they may … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Do You Want to Play Big or Small?by Amy Barnes, MBA MA LMHC Until recently I didn’t realize that I had a choice. Then I realized how small I had been playing. I could make lots of excuses about why I was playing small, not working up … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Can You Transform Your Pain into Joy?What about you makes you who you are today? Were you able to overcome some obstacle to getting what you want or doing something you were told you could never do? These stories are what make the stories of heroes. … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Happiness, Sex and ObesityNow yet another study has come out confirming the connection between our physical bodies and how we feel about ourselves. As a relationship counselor and coach I feel quite vested in improving the quality of life of my clients. I … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- Whose Authority Do You Trust?by Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC Who do you trust to make your major life decisions for you? Do you trust yourself or do you rely on the opinions of others or of a specific other. I trust my friend’s … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
- What Transforms Pain into Joy?by Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC The pain may be a divorce, death loss of job, cancer, a disappointment or hurt that causes you pain. Some of us bounce back more easily from these places of pain than others. Most … Continue reading →Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
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Tag Archives: Zone of Genius
The Amazing Power of Commitment
Yesterday I talked about commitment with a long term client. He would not tell me his commitment regarding a certain issue that has long bothered him. He said he would be judged and nagged, and involve the other person in being responsible for his success or failure if he shared his commitment. Clearly we had hit a hot button and despite his protests that his way of not making public his commitments worked, everything from his tone of voice, to his body language, breathing, facial expressions, the amount of adrenaline he was activating and his actual results showed this wasn’t true. His “I have to do it all by myself persona” was in charge. I’ll be interested in seeing how this plays out next time we meet.
I have found the exact opposite to be true of making a commitment. The power of commitment gives me a sense of freedom, a sense of direction and clarity. Several weeks ago I made a commitment to my coach, Gay Hendricks and several others to write a sample business proposal for an idea that I am truly passionate about. I agreed to have this completed by the end of August – yesterday.
At the moment I made the commitment I was in my zone of genius, excited, passionate. Since then I hit my upper limit, playing in my own self created drama triangle that this was a dumb idea. Then there was this commitment I had made. I am good at keeping my commitment to others. Many times I had started writing this proposal in the last month. Yesterday I sat down and for several hours, words flowed and I completed the sample proposal. It’s far from perfect (as my perfectionist persona tells me). It’s done and now I have a working document to play with and I’m excited. I’m exhilarated!
That short written document gave me a sense of tremendous power. I have taken a major first step in making my dream a reality. If I had not had that commitment I would have become controlled by my naysayer persona that is quite willing to tell me frequently and loudly that I can’t do it.
Here’s to the power of commitment. Thanks Gay!
With much gratitude and appreciation,
Amy Barnes, Life Coach for Relationships, Leadership and Transformation
Note: Persona from the Greek word mask. Being in persona is a way of being in the world that is different from us being our true self.
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Appreciating Both Indiana’s and Your Own Essence Qualities
Today is for me one of Indiana’s finest. Crystal clear air, warm and sunny, wisps of clouds in the air and the glow of leaves from green to golden yellow to bright red and all the colors in between and more. I feel blessed just walking outside. If Indiana was a person today would reflect its essence, its soul, its highest self. Today Indiana with the cooperating weather is clearly operating in Indiana’s zone of genius.
As a coach that is exactly what I want to help people do. To shine. To thrive. To glow. To operate in people just like you, live, work and play in their Zone of Genius. What is it that you love to do that both creates abundance and serves others?
The first step is to both know and feel comfortable with your authentic self. Who is it you most want to be? What is your life purpose? What makes you happy? What makes you sad? Many of us tend to skip the knowing ourselves first part. We want to move on, move quickly. We listen to what others, well meaning friends, relative, teachers, parents and spouses tell us we would be good at or what we ought to do.
Maybe it’s time for you to trust your gut. What if you said what you really wanted? Would anyone listen? The saddest thing for me is to see a person who has just completed many years of college and even post graduate training to please someone else. For instance “Bill” went to law school and became a successful lawyer. However, “Bill” was not happy. He had gone to law school only to please his father. Now he was ready to discover what he really wanted to do?
What makes you uniquely you? What do you enjoy best? How do you shine and what puts a smile on your face.
Like this glorious day when Indiana is at its finest, when are you at your finest?
Until next time,
Amy Barnes, Life Coach for Leadership and Transformation
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