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All You Need Is Love (Time Sensitive)

Posted on October 17, 2011 | Leave a comment

As you may, or should, know, tomorrow is the kick
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30 Day Non Violence Challenge

Posted on August 1, 2011 | Leave a comment

I don’t think of myself as a violent person. I do good deeds. I’m nice to others. I even helped a women load a case of paper into her car in front of Staples the other day.
My Yoga instructor, Robin Howard, started practicing and teaching yoga as healing process in her own life.

Robin states, “Often when we start to treat ourselves with the love and respect we would offer an honored guest, we make great strides in feeling happy, peaceful and whole.” This couldn’t be more in line with what I feel I do for a living to empower people to discover their gifts, talents and self worth or more simply to be true to them.
We often do things to ourselves that we would never consider doing to others or say words that hurt others and then say, “I was just having a bad day.” What if we learned other ways to express our feelings, and to ask for what we want without hurting ourselves or others?

Robin came up with a great list for treating ourselves, others and even the planet with respect and love we all deserve.

Robin’s List:
• No negative self-talk
• No harsh words to others. If you slip, just notice and apologize
• No gossip or trash talking others
• No violent images or words from TV, movies, music
• No violent speech
• Adding at least one more entirely plant-based meal a week

I’ll post about my experiences and would love to hear from you about your experiences.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes MA MBA LMHC
Twitter @coachingwithamy

http://www.facebook.com/CoachingwithAmy

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Is Your Fear Real?

Posted on July 23, 2011 | Leave a comment

Years and years ago at the height of my extreme introvert self – yes I am a recovering extreme introvert and I still need plenty of me time – I interviewed for and actually worked as a sales rep for Xerox. The job involved lots of cold calling and high pressure sales which I now know was a job that in no way suited who I was then or ever would be. However, I learned a tremendous amount, particularly about listening skills which has served me quite well. More often than I would like to admit, I would sit outside a potential customer’s office in my car, terrified with such fright that I was unable to go in. Remember, in those days there were few computers, no laptops, no internet and no cell phones. I was so ashamed by this and so fearful that there was something drastically wrong with me, that I was unable to ask for help on what to do about my fear.

My fear was merely a smokescreen, although I did not understand this at the time. The worst that could have happened were all things I could have handled: someone may have been rude, the potential customer merely said no or I may have been propositioned (remember this was a long time ago and that did happen to me.). I didn’t have the tools or know how to deal with my fear. No longer am I at the mercy of my own fear. Because I so acutely understand how fear can stop me (and others) from taking action and pursuing what we most want, I can support others in dealing with their own fear.

Has fear ever stopped you or gotten in the way of accomplishing something or creating what you most want in your life? If your fear keeps you stuck, I want to support you in making friends with your fear. I want to empower you to turn your fear into an ally instead of an enemy.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes MA MBA LMHC
I empower people to discover their gifts, talents and self worth.

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Posted in Empower, Fear, Feelings, Uncategorized

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Free to Be

Posted on July 21, 2011 | Leave a comment

Maybe you know someone like “Larry” or maybe you are a lot like “Larry.” Larry has never been able to please his Father. He went into the family business and married a woman that pleased his parents. He went to college and selected a major not based on his interests but based on what would be a good fit with the family business and please others. He has done well in his life but he has never been happy. For some people this would be a great scenario and they would be very happy. For someone like Larry whose interests and dreams are not in alignment with others expectation of him, happiness eludes him. He can never be happy living a life out of alignment with who he is.

Many of us are a little like Larry. We make decisions in our life not because it is what we really want to do but because it is what others expect of us. We have not learned to be comfortable in our skin – we rely on others opinions and we rarely trust out gut – we have trouble making decisions, sometimes even on daily simple things like where do I want to eat, because we have so little faith in ourselves. When does it become okay to listen to our own hearts, our own inner voices and use our own talents and gifts in a way that best fits us and best fits the world?

When you are in touch with and use your gifts, talents and passions, you become fully alive and fully you. Amazingly, fully being you frees up a tremendous amount of energy and gives you a much better opportunity to be both happy and successful in all areas of your life. As a coach, I empower clients to get in touch with their own gifts and talents and passions so they can most fully be themselves at work and play and in their relationships. Being ok with who you are – all of you is the basis of self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence. I believe we were not created to be anything different than we are. I believe that we each have the potential for greatness inside us that can best be accessed by fully being ourselves.

I want to empower you to be the best you can be, by being yourself.

Amy Barnes, MA MBA LMHC

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Stop Fighting Fires

Posted on July 14, 2011 | Leave a comment

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Posted in career, Coach, Empower, Stress, Uncategorized, Zone of Genius

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Do You Want to Play Big or Small?

Posted on June 27, 2011 | Leave a comment

by Amy Barnes, MBA MA LMHC
Until recently I didn’t realize that I had a choice. Then I realized how small I had been playing. I could make lots of excuses about why I was playing small, not working up to my full potential or using all my gifts and talents in most areas of my life. The unpleasant truth was that I had chosen to show up being less than I could be.

I could make lots of excuses. I could blame my childhood or the fact that I felt it would take too much of time and energy or that I would have to be different than who I am or others wouldn’t like me or I just didn’t believe in myself.

I think the truth was closer to I have been doing the same thing for a long time and had fallen into a rut. Not necessarily an unpleasant rut. I like my coworkers. I thoroughly enjoy working with the vast majority of my clients.

I’ve been doing this for almost 15 years and it’s time I gave myself a promotion. As a body centered coach and therapist I’ve learned more tricks, more tools more ways of working with people to get them from where they are to where they want to be much more quickly and easier. I need to appreciate my own growth and new skills. I need to listen to myself and trust my gut to know it’s time to do things differently. It’s time for me to spend more time in my own Zone of Genius.

Just as I support and empower my clients to be the best they can be I also need to do that for myself. So in the coming months you’ll see changes in my website and changes in how I go about doing business so I can reach more people in a way that is best for both myself and my clients.

I encourage you to play big, not stay small and I’ll do the same for me. In the meantime contact me if you feel I can support you in going from where you are now to where you want to be in all areas of life – both work and play.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next time,

Amy

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Posted in Appreciation, Body Centered Coach, Body Mind Vibrance coach, Empower, Life Coach, Trust your gut, Uncategorized, Zone of Genius

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Can You Transform Your Pain into Joy?

Posted on May 16, 2011 | Leave a comment

Bethany Harper, The Real Soul Surfer

What about you makes you who you are today?

Were you able to overcome some obstacle to getting what you want or doing something you were told you could never do? These stories are what make the stories of heroes.

At age 13, in 2003, surfer Bethany Hamilton lost her left arm to a shark attack. A month later she was back on her board and in 2005 she won a national championship. Now at 21 she has a movie Soul Surfer based on her life. How did she have the resilience to get back on the board and not just to move on with her life but to flourish?

On the hand, think of the many lottery winners, instead of using the winnings to make a positive difference in their lives proceeded to loose everything. These are the stories of tragedies.

We all have obstacles in our lives. How we are able to deal with those obstacles is what makes a difference in each of our lives.

I want to empower people and give them the skills to deal with those obstacles well. The skills of resilience can be learned.

If someone made a movie about your life, would you be the main character? Would you be the hero and the star?

I support people empowering them to overcome obstacles so they may step into their full power and creativity. Call me if you are ready to take charge of your own life and thrive.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

Amy is a relationship counselor and coach with over 15 years experience, specializing in empowering individuals in transforming their pain into joy so they may step into their full power and creativity.

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Happiness, Sex and Obesity

Posted on May 4, 2011 | Leave a comment

Now yet another study has come out confirming the connection between our physical bodies and how we feel about ourselves. As a relationship counselor and coach I feel quite vested in improving the quality of life of my clients. I see the mind, body and spirit all as quite interconnected. If we don’t take care of our bodies it affects not only the quality of our lives physically but also how we feel about ourselves, emotionally.

The lack of desire for sex by one partner is often seen as a problem in a relationship. Although the causes for the lack of sex can be many, obesity is certainly one of the problems.

Indiana ranks 17th as one of the most obese states in the US. Obesity is described as having a BMI (Body Mass Index) of 30 or greater. Morbidly obese is described as being 100 or more pounds overweight. The National Institute of health estimates that more than 300,000 lives could be saved in the United States each year if everyone stayed at a healthy weight!

When working with clients as a therapist and coach I am most concerned with having my clients be healthy and feel good. I want to support my clients in feeling good in all areas of their lives.

According to the May/June 2011 issues of the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, there is now one more reason for people to take care of themselves. Obese people have a less satisfying sex life and a lower quality of life. Ostbye, director of the research study at Duke stated, “Our findings contribute to a growing body of research that indicates obesity is associated with reduced sexual functioning and sexual quality of life among both men and women.” The study added that both the decreased quality of life and decreased quality of sexual function are even greater for women than for men.
Dealing with obesity is not just about the weight but is layered with a lifetime of emotional issues that are difficult to deal with. Eating and body image are emotional issues.

I want to support you in loving yourself and loving your life. I want to empower you to transform your pain into joy so you can step into your full power and creativity.

Call me. I will listen.

Until next time,
Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

Amy is a relationship counselor and coach with over 15 years experience, specializing in empowering individuals in transforming their pain into joy so they may step into their full power and creativity.

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Whose Authority Do You Trust?

Posted on April 25, 2011 | Leave a comment

by Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
Who do you trust to make your major life decisions for you? Do you trust yourself or do you rely on the opinions of others or of a specific other. I trust my friend’s opinions and I value them. However I know that when I make a decision or decide to do something, I want to feel a 100% yes inside of me.

I used to laugh that I was born without the gene for fashion. I relied on others for their opinions on my hairstyles and how I dressed. For years I ended up with hairstyles I did not like. Now I respect others opinions but also have a much greater sense of trusting myself and going with what feels best for me in all areas of my life. I feel comfortable speaking and owning my own authority, realizing that this can be done in a way that is respectful of others and their opinions.

Sometimes we get great advice and sometimes the advice we get is based on the other person’s self interest. We all look at life from out own point of view. What is right for me may not be right for you.

Often my clients ask for my advice or want me tell them what to do when they need to make a major decision. My clients come with many questions: whether or not to stay married, whether or not to get married, what to do for a living, to stay or to leave a job, how to deal with a “problem friend” and many more including how to be happy. My answer is no, I will not tell you what to do. I do not want the place of having the authority over what should happen in someone else’s life.

I want to support my clients in being their own best authority. I want them to be able to trust their gut and to make the decisions that are right for them. Often I have clients who have yielded to others to make major life decisions for them all their life. Sometimes it’s a spouse, a boss, a friend, or our current relationship partner.

I want to support you in being the best authority in your life so that you can trust your gut and step into your full power and creativity.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

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Is Your Relationship a Partnership?

Posted on March 7, 2011 | Leave a comment

By Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

Amy is a relationship counselor and coach with over 15 years experience, specializing in supporting individuals and couples in transforming pain into joy.

Recently I had the pleasure of relationship counseling with two strong professionals, both competent in their fields and married to each other. A relationship between two strong and some may say headstrong individuals has a unique set of challenges but one that I love to see and love working with.

At its worst a relationship like this could be like two alpha dogs both fighting for control. At its best the relationship is a true collaborative effort that has the power to move mountains. This is where synergy takes effect and the sum of the whole becomes much greater than its parts.

What a gift to be in a relationship where you are able to see your partner truly as an equal, to value his or her opinions as much as you do your own. Each partner is willing to take 100% responsibility for making the relationship work. We dealt with the hard work of sadness, anger and disappointments. In our time together the room was also often filled with laughter and appreciations.

We worked on some fine tuning: strengthening the partnership, allowing space for each individual to truly express his or her feelings and ask for what each most wants. We worked on listening to their bodies and to state what they were feeling instead of taking their feelings out on each other.

I appreciate their openness their willingness to play and their desire to create and even stronger bond. They felt good as they know each know that their marriage can continue to grow stronger and even more fulfilling over time.

As a relationship counselor and coach I love making marriages better. Call me if you feel your relationship could benefit from counseling.

Until Next Time,

Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

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