Category Archives: Trust your gut

Do You Want to Play Big or Small?

Posted on June 27, 2011 | Leave a comment

by Amy Barnes, MBA MA LMHC
Until recently I didn’t realize that I had a choice. Then I realized how small I had been playing. I could make lots of excuses about why I was playing small, not working up to my full potential or using all my gifts and talents in most areas of my life. The unpleasant truth was that I had chosen to show up being less than I could be.

I could make lots of excuses. I could blame my childhood or the fact that I felt it would take too much of time and energy or that I would have to be different than who I am or others wouldn’t like me or I just didn’t believe in myself.

I think the truth was closer to I have been doing the same thing for a long time and had fallen into a rut. Not necessarily an unpleasant rut. I like my coworkers. I thoroughly enjoy working with the vast majority of my clients.

I’ve been doing this for almost 15 years and it’s time I gave myself a promotion. As a body centered coach and therapist I’ve learned more tricks, more tools more ways of working with people to get them from where they are to where they want to be much more quickly and easier. I need to appreciate my own growth and new skills. I need to listen to myself and trust my gut to know it’s time to do things differently. It’s time for me to spend more time in my own Zone of Genius.

Just as I support and empower my clients to be the best they can be I also need to do that for myself. So in the coming months you’ll see changes in my website and changes in how I go about doing business so I can reach more people in a way that is best for both myself and my clients.

I encourage you to play big, not stay small and I’ll do the same for me. In the meantime contact me if you feel I can support you in going from where you are now to where you want to be in all areas of life – both work and play.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next time,

Amy

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Whose Authority Do You Trust?

Posted on April 25, 2011 | Leave a comment

by Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC
Who do you trust to make your major life decisions for you? Do you trust yourself or do you rely on the opinions of others or of a specific other. I trust my friend’s opinions and I value them. However I know that when I make a decision or decide to do something, I want to feel a 100% yes inside of me.

I used to laugh that I was born without the gene for fashion. I relied on others for their opinions on my hairstyles and how I dressed. For years I ended up with hairstyles I did not like. Now I respect others opinions but also have a much greater sense of trusting myself and going with what feels best for me in all areas of my life. I feel comfortable speaking and owning my own authority, realizing that this can be done in a way that is respectful of others and their opinions.

Sometimes we get great advice and sometimes the advice we get is based on the other person’s self interest. We all look at life from out own point of view. What is right for me may not be right for you.

Often my clients ask for my advice or want me tell them what to do when they need to make a major decision. My clients come with many questions: whether or not to stay married, whether or not to get married, what to do for a living, to stay or to leave a job, how to deal with a “problem friend” and many more including how to be happy. My answer is no, I will not tell you what to do. I do not want the place of having the authority over what should happen in someone else’s life.

I want to support my clients in being their own best authority. I want them to be able to trust their gut and to make the decisions that are right for them. Often I have clients who have yielded to others to make major life decisions for them all their life. Sometimes it’s a spouse, a boss, a friend, or our current relationship partner.

I want to support you in being the best authority in your life so that you can trust your gut and step into your full power and creativity.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes MBA MA LMHC

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YES or NO???

Posted on November 3, 2010 | Leave a comment

One of our earliest life tasks after mastering basic survival is discovering who we are in the world. NO! How I love to watch two year olds as they run out into the world seldom out of eye range of a loving parent or caretaker. Then the look back to make sure they are still seen. Then the sudden running back, can’t get too far away in those forays into independence. The ability of a two year old to say NO! I’m not you. I have my own mind, my own body and my own heart.

Some of us maintain that two year old “No,” being on guard and wary of connecting with people for a variety of reasons. Some of us swing the other way saying “Yes” even when we mean no. We may become fearful of losing connection, holding onto a relationship even if it means losing ourselves. Neither position allows for a healthy relationship with ourselves or with others.

The first and most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Being authentic knowing who we are and who we want to be, having the freedom to say yes or no or maybe to ourselves and to others. What a gift to discover who you are at your very core.

The most important transformation we may ever have is learning to listen to ourselves. I support people in whole body learning to listen and trust themselves. Then the Yes or No comes from an authentic place inside us.

I support clients in learning to trust their gut, to value themselves. Too often we give our power away by trusting others more than we trust ourselves.

Until next time,

Amy Barnes, MA MBA LMHC
Life Coach forRelationships and Personal and Professional Transformation

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